Little Things That Make A Difference In A Relationship

We are generally not aware of the fact that the most important things in life are not all these extraordinary events. But rather, all those little things and people that surround us every day. Until it’s too late.

Out of ten randomly selected people, as many as ten love all these little details , trifles and details in their lives .

These little things do not need any important dates or pompous phrases. They just happen in real time in our daily lives. And they make up a long list of reasons that motivate us to take the next steps forward.

They give us reasons to feel humble. They also help us learn how to better care for the people we love.

These little details always come first. Every day. Because it is them that make our relationship strengthen, and we become better and better every day.

The little things that make us really fall in love with our own life

As we mentioned above, it is these seemingly insignificant little things that allow us to fall in love. Because they allow us to change something in our everyday life, so that we can live it fully.

They reflect the greatness of human personalities and our ability to love continuously and unconditionally.

But the truth is, we can win a lottery ticket every day, every second and every little detail. It’s just going to be little things like waking up every day with someone you love.

Either such as bouts of laughter while talking to a loved one, or chatting until 3 am, or enjoying the sunset together.

These little things are what is really important and what keeps us alive day by day. But you usually only realize it when you lose something important to yourself, or when things go wrong as planned.

This last point is extremely important because when this happens, despite your disappointment, it usually happens that something is still pulsating inside you.

Little things translate into great moments

Staying on your diet, going to the gym, or being highly productive at work are great daily goals, but there must be room for something more important among them : you must become a collector of highly emotional moments.

This is because emotional moments are what brings happiness to your life.

To get used to these kinds of aspects of everyday life, you can start by keeping a special diary in which you will record every day all those special moments that reflect your feelings and emotions.

After a few days of recording these types of events, you will feel really surprised to see how your awareness of the relationship has developed in you.

It can also help you develop a much higher sensitivity to create a “love map” of those you are close to. Your brain will store this information, allowing you to feel more involved in the details of the lives of the people you care about the most.

Little things to include in your “love map”

Below, we are going to write down all the aspects that psychologist John Gottman believes we need to know when compiling our own list of important little details for our lives:

• Favorite dish of a loved one?
• Her favorite movies, TV shows and books?
• At least two people that your loved one deeply admires?
• Her favorite animals?
• Its the perfect place to relax?
• The first thing this someone will buy after hitting the jackpot lottery jackpot?
• Something you can do to improve your relationship with him / her?

• What would he / she want to change for you?
• What is his / her favorite way to spend an afternoon at home?
• In what types of activities does he / she feel best?
• What are the hidden ambitions of your loved one?
• How does he / she want to become better / better and in what way?
• What are your favorite restaurants?
• What kind of literature does he / she prefer?
• What is his / her favorite activity during the illness?
• What would be the perfect birthday present for that someone?
• What is this person currently worried about or what is stressing him / her?
• What is his / her favorite way to get your attention?
• What is his / her greatest unfulfilled dream?

• What does he / she feel most proud of?

Men also pay attention to the little things

Many people make the completely wrong assumption that most men do not pay attention to small things and that they are not important to them. Guys don’t seem to appreciate small or subtle details at all and consider certain things to be a mere waste of time.

But the truth is, men appreciate trifles as well as women.

Therefore, we must be aware that they, too, deserve all the little things that can give them hope – such as words, hugs or unexpected kisses. They also want to be surprised because they also deserve love.

Whether you are a man or a woman, you must learn to appreciate the people who live around you every day.

A good way to get started is to learn to spot the differences in the small details of their lives while being extra careful and sensitive.

Creating a sense of uniqueness in the people you love is absolutely crucial to a happy and successful relationship. Show them that they are important in your life because day by day people tend to forget how important it is to show your feelings and that they are important to you – with reciprocity.

It is undoubtedly something that gives a breath of fresh air to all love.

Tip for readers:

• If you’ve been interested in improving communication in your relationship, you may want to check out the work of authors such as John M. Gottman and Joan DeClaire. These books can be an extremely valuable resource for you and will help you improve the quality of your relationship without a doubt.

The photos are from Puuung’s collection .